Please watch the video attached (excuse the foul language).
This is Zaid Ali, who is just a random person who makes videos on whatever he wants. This is one video however, that caught my eye.
To Zaid's first point in the video “…girls on Facebook have
pictures that are half naked or have cleavage showing …" my question is why is
it such a big deal if a woman wants to show off her body? If a woman has a body
she is not ashamed of, and is confident in herself, doesn't she have the right to
do so? After all, aren't we taught in schools from teachers, counselors, and
our parents not to be ashamed of our body and to accept ourselves?
Do you think society’s perspective of calling a woman a
“slut” is right from doing an act like this, while men have no such discouraging
words?Why is it NOT such a big deal when men have pictures of
themselves topless, or showing off their abs?
Zaid is trying to imply that the only reason women get JERKS is because of the way they dress. You, as a women are asking for it. Do you agree, or disagree? Are women to blame for the reason men wanting sex because of this?
How do you feel overall about Zaid’s opinion on the "majority of women on Facebook"? Do you agree, or disagree?
After watching Zaid's video I must say that I have to disagree with what he claims to be fact. Obviously this is a guy's point of view which majority of guys thinks to be true. I also do not buy his so called honesty and so called better than other guys because he acts so nice kind of attitude.
ReplyDeleteThe fact that he says that guys would only want to take the girl to bed which is kind of the only thing that was said to be kind of true. I think that how women dress is her choice. If she wants to flaunt herself on Facebook for her friends and the public she can.
Oh, it is not a big deal when men show off their abs because we don't have boobs. And because most men need for attention because they most guys are loosing their self-esteem and that the body is the only way they can try to get girls.
Ok, first off this Zaid character stereotypes way too much. "You girls..."? Who is he to generalize every single female? It's also common knowledge that the first thing to attract the desiring sex is by their looks and their body. Unless two people grow together, you won't just go up to someone you don't find attractive. A way someone dresses isn't what will attract jerks, it's the way someone acts that will attract certain people. If she is (mind the language) a bitch, she will attract people who can stand her attitude and so on. Women are not to blame for a man's sexual desires because all men are different.
ReplyDeleteSure, a woman should have the right to expose her body to society, but there are differences between women and men in society.
ReplyDeleteWomen are mostly the likely ones showing cleavage or even an "ass" photo and be appeared as easy, slut, whore, hoe, and etc on facebook, but in reality, they maybe seeking the attention they didn't receive when they were younger or just want to get some. Who knows what women think when they upload a photo of themselves.
We see models showing their bodies in society, but they're not portrayed as slut, whores, etc. Why is this? Is it because they are paid to show they're bodies?
Men on the other hand... would you like to see a guy show his cleave of his "genitals" on facebook or in society? Sure they say,"love your body", but would you love your body if society disregards it? Sure, you can still love it...until at a certain point.
Yes I would. I personally call a man a whore, slut, easy, hoe and so on. However, the society has been shaped in such a way that males' promiscuity is encouraged.
DeleteBut in reality, most men wouldn't care about being called a whore, slut, or hoe compared to a woman. It's because those terms don't really imply to men.
DeleteDefinition of WHORE
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: a woman who engages in sexual acts for money : prostitute; also : a promiscuous or immoral woman
http://www.merriam-webster.com/dictionary/whore
Slut or slattern is a term applied to an individual who is considered to have loose sexual morals or who is sexually promiscuous. The term is generally pejorative and most often applied to women as an insult or offensive term of disparagement, meaning "dirty or slovenly.
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Slut
hoe
noun
a general insult, usually applied to females.
http://onlineslangdictionary.com/meaning-definition-of/hoe
Keshmi I agree with you that it is a woman's choice on how she dresses and whether she wants to show off her body or not and I don't like the way Zaid phrased it, the words he used were not appropriate however I think there is a deeper message behind what he is saying. What I understood from his video is that women should wear cothes that don't reveal too much of their body so if a guy likes a girl it is for who she is not for how she looks. I think he is saying that the most beautiful and attractive part of a woman is her smile and that's what she should show.
ReplyDeleteI agree with Shahin the most in this thread!
ReplyDeletePersonally, I don't like Zaid. I have watched some of videos and he makes generalizations. However, what he is saying in this video I do agree with.
If you choose your attire, then you are choosing the image you set for yourself. If you post a nude or almost nude picture (male or female), then you are projecting the fact you are comfortable with your sexuality. For example, one wouldn't try to sleep with a person dressed like a nun or monk. You should know what you are representing when you post pictures of yourself.
If a girl or boy wants to post revealing pictures, they are sending a message and it is a justifiable assumption. Besides, if an individual doesn't want to have sex, then don't. Maybe it's unfair but then again life is.
Thanks for agreeing with me. I believe that one doesn't choose clothes depending on whether they want to have sex or not, they wear what they think they look good in but yes what you wear does give an image to the opposite person. It may not be the image you want to portray but that's what comes across so it is necessary to watch what you wear just like it is necessary to watch what you say.
DeleteI think everybody in this class would agree that men and women are not the same. We have physical differences from the oppisite sex. Women's bodies are just shown to be more promiscuis than men. I dont believe that if a person both male or female takes a picture of thier body topless, that they are a slut. If a person likes thier physical appearance, then it is thier right to express it. As a kid, many children were forced to wear braces and/or glasses. They get teased because of the glasses and braces with such names as "4 eyes" and "Braceface". As a kid, that would hurt being called such names, and will bring down thier self-esteem. Then they grow up and the braces and glasses disappears, and now they need something to get thier self-esteem up, and they are proud of thier body now. They takes such picture so people could comment good things, and help them feel better about themselves.
ReplyDeletePromiscuity is associated with behaviour. One needs to be promiscuous in order to be a slut. Actions speak louder than pictures. For an individual to be considered a slut, they need to exhibit promiscuous behaviour. Posting revealing pictures of oneself gives the image that the person is a slut; if their image isn't followed by actions then they are not a slut. And if someone is promiscuous then let them be.
ReplyDeleteThank you to everyone that replied.
ReplyDeleteNow your responses are telling me that a women is not defined as a slut by the way she expresses herself through her wardrobe choices. What then is your definition of a “slut”?
How then can YOU tell if someone (male/female) is a slut?
To Mohamed’s point, my response to that would be is that basically you are implying that if men had breast (which in fact some men do) it would be a big of a deal enough for them to be called a derogative term?
Breast seems to be the one of those body parts that should be kept tucked and covered… for women. Why is that not the same for men?
Why can men walk out on the streets shirtless with their man boobs sagging without it being a big deal, but women need to either be wearing a bathing suit, or a shirt ( not even a bra because that’s illegal though there isn’t much of a difference from a bikini top and a bra....)?
I totally agree with you Keshmi, if a woman wants to show off her body she should be able to. I mean it is her body and I’m sure she knows that if she posts it on Facebook many people might be able to see it, but who are we to judge. Personally, I think those women are brave, because as a female we are bombarded with advertisements, telling us to look a certain way, to be a certain size and this causes many females to have low self-esteem. However, I’m not saying posting up pictures of yourself half naked is the best way to tell the world you are happy with your body, but if that’s what some females want to do, I don’t see why this makes them a slut. Furthermore, how does a picture represent she is a slut? Appearance vs. reality, just because she posts pictures doesn’t mean she is a slut. I feel that as humans we are quick to judge without even knowing them truly. Also, back in the day in some countries, people did not wear clothes to cover themselves. Were they considered to be sluts? I don’t agree with Zaid when he says that women get jerks because of the way they dress, as if we are to blame. This is like agreeing to what the police officer said to those students at York University, that we can avoid rape if we dress decently. At least those females aren’t using their bodies to sell objects like some females in advertisements.
ReplyDeletePromiscuous: Having many sexual relationships.
ReplyDeleteSlut: A promiscuous woman.
The way WOMEN dress does not make them sluts, the actions THEY take make them sluts.
To emphasis, a whole word is dedicated to women who SLEEP AROUND, not who dress to impress. No matter what way a woman was to show off her body, Zaid has no right to label them based upon their appearances, but rather stop preaching his beliefs to other people if all he will be doing is misinterpreting what he sees or hears.
Most people judge with their eyes and not with their brain. Some people are even more shallow and don't even go up to someone if they don't meet their standards of how a perfect male or female looks like to them. I think TV, the Internet, and music videos have a huge impact on what people think about the perfect mate for them. Overall, it's about personality because when you're 80 and you're spouses looks aren't on par as it was when they were young, would you truly be happy?
DeleteWomen SLEEP with men though. Why is that women are labeled as sluts when having more than one sexual partner, but men are perceived as "a real man", or "a legend"?
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DeleteBecause women and men are like doors and keys. A key that opens many doors is a master key, but a door that is unlocked by any key is pretty lame.
DeleteI saw this on 9gag
DeleteI dont agree whatsoever with what Zaid has said in this video. he is being extremely close minded, and is only speaking from a man's point of view. If he feels the need to go out of his way to write and record a response to all of the half naked/offensive pictures on the internet, he should at least take the time to research some of the reasons why women take photos like these.
ReplyDeleteAlthough in my opinion, these girls are being disrespectful not only to themselves, but to their parents and families as well. I'm sure all of us that have facebook/twitter/tumblr have at least one family member added as a friend or whatnot.
I would hate for my younger brothers and/or sisters to see something offensive on my facebook page.
The girls that dress so scantily and show their bodies for all of the internet to see are attention seeking, immature, little girls, and they need to grow up and start learning how to respect themselves.
But that's just my opinion
Do you have the same opinion about men who show off their body/abs? Or is that "hot"?
DeleteBoth female and males have the right to express them-self however they want to. But you got to also remember that the way you express yourself might come back to bite you later on.If you do post picture of your self, whether it exposing or not, you got to realize that a lot of people are going to see it one way or another. Your going to get a lot of responds and the way that you feel about yourself is the only that that matters.
ReplyDeleteExample- If a model post a picture of her self half naked, do you really think that you calling her a slut matter to her? She making money of the fact that she beautiful and happy about here body and the fact that she can express herself.
I agree with your last sentence of paragraph one. Girls in this world are perceived and judged in many ways, which can lead to bullying, depression or to even unfortunate times of suicidal thoughts. I think all that women need is a boost in their confidence.
DeleteAfter reading all the comments above, and thinking about each point of view made, I still came up with the same conclusion that I had, before reading this blog post; that a woman should dress the way she wants to, without having to worry about stranger’s opinions. The way a woman dresses is not an excuse for men to act out their sexual desires. If a woman thinks she looks good or flattering in revealing clothes, then so be it. I don't see how it is anyone's business, other than the woman herself (and her family if she’s under-age).
ReplyDeleteAs for the men being able to walk down the street shirtless, and knowing that they won't be judged in the same way as females, it's unfair and it's sexist that this is what society says is right. Why should half naked men not have to go through the same sort of criticism that females would have to go through if they walked down the street in their negligee, or post pictures up on hosting sites of themselves clad in little to nothing?
At the end of the day why should anyone allow others to determine what clothing articles are 'appropriate' enough to wear? (Some people would find no-sleeves, capris, or any piece of clothing that doesn't cover the body from head-to-toe degrading and inappropriate). Whose definition of ‘appropriate’ clothing is the right one then, if one wishes to prescribe to this notion of dressing in a certain fashion?
The society is making a big deal out of showing some of your body parts because they are insecure about themselves. Maybe other women has a better body than them that's why they are saying that they are "sluts". In my own opinion, it is not bad to show your body. No one has the right to judge other people according to their clothing. Each one of us has a different personalities and different type of clothing. Maybe the "sluts", as other people call them, aren't really sluts. They are just comfortable wearing those type of clothes.
ReplyDeleteIt is a common mistake for us to judge every single person especially when there's something that we don't like about them. That's how society works.
Personally, I feel that a women should be able to dress the way she wants to and if that means dressing in a revealing manner then so be it. One thing we all need to understand is that we all judge people based on how they look (if we don't know the person) because that's what we see and are certain about. People who are conscience about their thoughts will make the effort to get to know the person to reaffirm or disprove the original thought about the person but sadly most people are not like that (including myself). We make assumptions that more often then not offend and hurt others. Therefore, I think one should be aware of this BEFORE posting pictures of themself to make sure they know how people will react (because we always do i.e. like Zain). Lastly, what really upsets me is how we have numerous terms to describe a 'promiscuous women' but the same terms do not apply to males. How is that fair and what does that say about our society?
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